Psychos: A True Story.
For a couple of months now, I’ve had the misfortune to listen to a couple arguing right outside the stairwell. My apartment and the stairwell is separated by a single brick wall, so I managed to catch whole phrases of their argument, especially when they were screaming at each other. But last night was seriously freaky.
Apparently Girl had come back to see her Guy, and asked for closure or just someone to shift the blame to. At the beginning, I caught snippets of Girl saying ‘what did you just call me? You so did not call me a bitch!’ (this is a phrase oft-repeated in their previous arguments). The moment where the shit hit the fan was when the Guy bellowed ‘YOU LEFT ME! YOU FUCKING CUNT!’ He proceeded to either throw things around or just hit the wall, and my wall was pretty subject to much abuse.
And I don’t know what happened, but then the Girl was suddenly screaming and crying, and she was yelling ‘let me go!’ and ’stop!’ You and I can clearly infer what the Guy was doing to her. I’ve heard similar phrases before, but they were yelled when I was nowhere near a lucid state (because their arguments seem to always happen at 4 in the morning). She was screaming for the good part of 5 minutes, and I became very disturbed. I wound up calling the landlord’s assistant, and at 1am in the morning, he didn’t pick up. I left a message, and then wondered if I should call the police. I didn’t dare peek my head out of my apartment, because I knew the Guy was abusive, and I honestly didn’t want to get hurt.
The screaming stopped, and there was a bit of silence for a while. Then the Girl began to alternate between ‘I love you’, ‘I hate you’ and ‘Asshole’ while speaking to her Guy. I then caught the gist of what was happening. The two broke up, and the Girl wants to get back together again, and the Guy didn’t want to. The Girl began to babble things hysterically: ‘What I am supposed to do?! You’ve left me here and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do!’, ‘I love you and you don’t love me, and I don’t know what to do!’
Guy still refused to get back together, and then the girl said ‘Fuck you. You’ll never find a girl like me who would love you as much as I ever will.’ I had half expected her to flounce dramatically out of the building after uttering such pretentious words, but Christ, she still stayed.
There was more talking, and I couldn’t hear much. The Girl then told the Guy: ‘You are abusive.’ Guy mumbles incoherently, and Girl reaffirms what I’ve thought all along. There was more talking, and after some time, I think she presented a suggestion to the Guy. I didn’t hear what it was, but the Guy bellowed again: ‘ARE YOU KIDDING ME? FUCK THIS SHIT. GET OUT!’
And that was it. I think they took it to the parking lot, and I heard a motorcycle zoom away.
Question: Next time I hear an argument like this and she’s in definite pain, should I be calling the police? It’s clearly a lover’s quarrel, and I don’t know if the police solve things like that.
I find it baffling why this girl still wants to stay in the relationship when she already knows her boyfriend is abusive. The guy obviously refused to get back with her, and I don’t know why she wants to tear herself up over a man who hits her when he’s angry. No, his aggressiveness will not be healed by the power of love, so stop trying to be a martyr. Everyone knows that she’s better off without him, and assuming if what the Guy said was correct and the girl left him, the girl knew too. Then she comes crawling back? Christ.
Secondly, get this guy to a counselor. If he abuses women, he’s got some fucking problems.
well Elaine, I would say that it would be a good idea to call the police. They do handle things like abuse and they can actually arrest them for domestic disturbance I think. I would assume they would only arrest the guy though. Who knows.
As for why she stays with him even though he’s abusive, it’s possible that she is used to that and even though she acknowledges it, she’s almost come to “need” a relationship like that in her mind. It’s really sad, but it happens all the time.